Firstly i understand cell leaders and their respective helpers care for each
member's spiritual coverage.However one must learn to be considerate and
understanding.the story went when one day after a family outing i was a
dead
beat cos we were doing this "expedition" at bukit timah hill...so i came
back
dirty ,tired and sweaty and needed to sleep.However there was a
cell group
goin on but i
wanted to rest.Each time my phone rang i
got nervous.Cos i knew
wats gonna
happen.Someone would call and tell me
loads of stuff on why i
should go to cell
groups.Yes its for my benefit
but please be understanding
when u genuinely are.U
can talk to a person
and say "i comprehend,i
understand", when in the first
place u dont.Its
like asking a mother whose
child was a victim of cholera who
has scores
of hope to be cured to
sympathise with a mother whose child died in a
car accident.Ok why am i
talking about death???? lets put it another
way.Get a
rock guitarist to talk
to a banking and finance officer.Half
the time both
parties have no idea
wats each other talking about.

Anyway,Its true that
when one of the
members called and told me
to come to cell group either way,i
hesitated and
couldnt find a stand to
say yes or no.so most of the time i kept
silent.It
must have irritated
the person so the phone was passed to the cell
leader.And then i got loads
of stuff that told me off saying i pay lip
service
to God only.And i
guessed its my indecisiveness that made my cell
leader say
such
shockingly rough words.Must have irritated him so i guess it
my fault. But
anyway humans talk in any manner when they are mad.So i
forgave both of
them
after i put down the phone.After all i irritated
them.And one cant
expect
everyone to be perfect.

Secondly i surveyed
most of my
members about
cell group relations.Most of them told me they
would
rather prefer to have
another cell member calling them up to just have
a
genuinely heart to heart chat
than to mention church and bible stuff.The
bible says let everything have
balance.Yes we have the mind of christ
but we
dont have to force the bible on
each other all the time.Unless
someone asks
for a revelation.If need be,cut ur
revelation short.Dont
preach a long
winded sermon that serves to confuse,and
occasionally
,irritate people.Come
straight to the main point.Further more a
simple
encouraging word or phrase
is strong enough to build someone up. U cant
recite word for word from a 300
page novel,let alone a 50 page nove can
you?In a
relationship,the most
impactable phrase is "i love you".Such a
simple phrase
causes guys to smile
day in day out..girls to be smiling
dreamily ..hahah.So its
like feeding on
a bite sized nuggte that grow in
u like a seed being sown.U dont
have to sow
so many seeds in a person's
soul and then have weeds growing all
over.Talk
about overcrowding
conditions.AHhaa science project in primary school.

I
dont mean to
to offend anyone but please act in love.coming to church
and
stuff is a
willing act,not something that people have to push u or to be
monitored.That
can make u feel controlled and "cultish",like how cults use
militaristic and
nasty means to make sure u dont stray away.So please.If a
member doesnt
come..he or she loses out for that day..but it doesnt mean he
or
she is
straying away!!people want to be treated nicely.pressuring
them,even if
they are a believer or not..is obviously not acting in love.And
most of
my
fellow members agree to this!!.

In a GENERAL perspective,WE all dislike irritating salespeople we meet on the streets or telemarketers who call us up with the intention of pulling us to buy their product and services.And there is absolutely no sincerity or frienship involved.I get calls from my cell members for one thing only."hey we got (event) service this week.Would you like to come?" or "you coming for cell group?" Such statements contian absolutely no friendship.Just an ensuring statement that serves to maintain your prescence at church.Between friends we call one another up to talk about everything under the sun.And between colleagues they do spend 80% of their time talking about non work-related topics.That can help decrease work stress and promote harmony. Try talking to a devout christian.They cant help but spend 80% of their time talking about church matters and GOD and all that stuff.When u try to talk 20% of non church matters,they inevitably center back onto church matters.And getting you to convert and belief.Its a one sided thing. No offense to any followers of any religion,but the main thing is clear :DONT BE A NUISANCE TO OTHER PEOPLE.DONT CALL UR FRENS JSUT FOR THE INTENTION OF ASKING THEM TO GO TO CHURCH.USE THE 80/20 RULE.USE 80% OF YOUR TIME TO TALK ABOUT MUNDANE MATTERS.

personally as a churched person the last time,i spend 80% of my time talking about non church matters to almost about anyone,including cell members.That way they wont feel the pressure or stress all the time,unless they like talking about church matters. (like talking about work on relaxing weekends from work can still bring about that same amount of "nerve wrecking" feeling.it will make no difference from being at the work place.All work and no play makes jack a dull boy.NO LIFE!!!)

Secondly i would like to talk about persecution of christians.I used to think i was being persecuted by my parents for their objection to me going to church.Most new converts would hav gone throug this,something they call "trials and tribulations" OR simply "God given teststo strengthen one's faith". MAny new converts who are teens have tried to ignore parental objections successfully and later apllauded by the cell group for being able to withstand such a harsh trial.In fact,genuine persecution is when your faith is being mugged at for no apparent reason.Like if u are a jew,and hitler has to kill you just for that reason alone,and u cant betray your own race just to keep your own life.

In a general perspective,parental objection is simply the fact that your parents are worried about you going to church and receiving the wrong teachings. Or you go to church all the time but you never change much.so its pointless.Finally its due to your parents feeling that you spent too much time at church and is too obsessed with church stuff that it is unhealthy.Juts explain it to them and clear all misunderstandings.Instead of ignoring it.If they still do not listen,it may be due to the fact that you have been raised a member of another religion and all of a sudden your conversion to a new God ,that seems to betray your current faith.Like a raised buddhist but turned christian later on .And your family memebers ,being advent believers in buddhsim strongly object you to switch to another God.

Lasty,your thoughts can be strong in the bible,but you can still speak in laymen terms to those who do not believe.But your thoughts cannot be to christian.Its very one sided and you will see things in a limited way.Do adopt a wider range of thinking.For example,christians are likely to get more paranoid and start to hold "prayer meetings" to counter a potential faith wrecking cult message being delivered new age speakers who comes to our local ground and holds conventions to promote their ideology.

IF they are so confident that christianity will not be asundered,why the sudden nervousness? Say u built a strong building like the raffles hotel.U wont send the construction workers to keep putting cement and stronger foundations to the walls of the building whenever the wind blows or the rain stops.It will not collapse! you already have put a strong foundation inside.Just believe and trust that it is strong!!You do not have to contact secret spy agents to spy on your spouse or lover 24/7 for fear that day hang out with members of the opposite sex.Because you believe that your spouse or lover is commited to you!!!And u are confident of the fact.

enough ramblings.Enjoy the edited vid of joe satriani's 'always with you,never with me' guitar ballad.It sounds way off! haha..its done on purpose.