suicide?!

Tuesday, April 22, 2008
7:19 AM

Enough of THE WHINING on EDUCATIONAL STUFF and how to handle failure.

here is a new chapter to my life. The life that anyone can MAKE THINGS HAPPEN BY THEIR OWN WILL,regardless of naysaying and all etc.

The goal and objective here is to be different from everyone else. Pick up hobbies and interests that may benefit pple ard you, at the same time not so mainstream,
activities like doing MAGIC tricks, playing in bands, which is not so popular here, but serves to entertain pple.Or u cna still be a mainstream lawyer/counsellor/policeman/teacher etc government conformist jobs, just make sure u do not have the typical mainstream image of those occupations i just listed. That sets u apart from the rest.

It all happened in my current 2008 holidays, a 1 and a half month break from poly in 2nd year. I've met new frens who share same interests as me, guitars/magic etc. Been asked to meet up and jam, perform gigs,and even old frens began building rapport with me once more,just to learn guitar, and reminisce the old fun times.

Performed magic with a fellow buddy and magician, in orchard road. Practised opening sets, or in other words, groups of random strangers, utilising magic tricks,and casual convo. THINGS AS HUMANS THAT WE DONT NORMALLY LEARN IN SCHOOL.iT KINDA was like me and my buddy magician fren opened up a long lost secret on how to make more friends, when all the friendship in school seems so bleak, that we're gonna run out of frens, and here in orchard road and in the general public, we are making our friends right here.

Sigh, singaporeans, forever too busy with work, never bothered to maintain eye contact with each other, even on a leisure stroll down orchard road. Not even a smile that makes our day.

Good thing i met pickup artists in the hiolidays as well. I decided to learn some of these stuff so that i dont have to fear not having a lifelong companion to be with.
sounds strange. haha i know. But i am not going to target a girl for the sole purpose of sex, like most PUA (pickup artists) do. AT a social stage now, i have only figured out the ART OF MAKING FRENS, not pickup girls as yet.
here are some of my TIPS on making frens in public.

#1.be an outstanding conversationlist. fire up ur mind,think of things that u can entertain people with, etc magic tricks, crapping ard etc. open them up.

#2. Treat random strangers a simple drink. NO one will reject this.nO one will NOT want to reject feeling like an unexpected VIP.do it like a hidden camera reality show style.
(i once hung out with a card flourishing [manipulation] friend at the arcade.
he had 3 tokens left and could not decide on what machine to plonk the coins in to play the games there. He gave up, and just chucked the tokens into the palms of one of the 2 girls standing behind us. The one that received the token was shocked and surprised at the same time. U should have seen the unexpected joyous facial expression of hers! damn cute.haha)

#3. After all the fun, intro ur name.never intro ur name at the start, unless its ur fren's fren. doing that to strangers at first approac makes u look like a kid whon thinks he /she is so popular , that pple should know u. Thats a smart alec move, and its unwelcomed.

#4. Once they get to know you, talk about interests, mundane things (universal topics that all people can relate to). however, dont talk too much on any topic alone, it can be boring to you or them after some time. Behave like a computer, processing multipile threads of convo at the same time. shoot different topics.
(i've always started out being too interviewer. i kept asking my new frens about his/her interest, while i nod and "yes,so what else do u do etc??where u stay etc??"
at one side. Honestly, getting mundane info from someone in a whole convo isnt entertaining.)

#5. Say something intersting abt urself. I;ve met pple who just couldnt say anything interesting about their lives, If ur one of those, its alright, maybe keep a diary, and who knows, u may even have a day where something funny happens to you! if not, well, u can learn to be like me, who tries to relax and just come out with any crap that comes into ur mind. toss ur convo around with fun topics after the initial stage of convo (interests,mundane life topics).

#6.exchanging phone numbers among same sex interaction is always smooth, but in the opposite sex, as i've noticed, usually girls will give guys their msn / emails. never their phone on the first meet. learn to respect that. they'll give phone numbers once they are comfortable with a guy. (girls...socially calibrated creatures!!haha).

thats all for now. enjoy the flashy videos below.-yan chen (chatartist).

...still seeking for death?!